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You gave up NBA tickets to be with your wife and son. That is beautiful. I only hope I find someone that loves me that much!
from Ali
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10:02 am - Monday,March 14, 2005
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I'm sorry to hear about your first wife's grandmother. I imagine it was hard to stay close to them after you lost your wife and your daughter. It's as if you lost her family as well. It is just all so very sad. I sometimes read your diary and wonder how you have made it through all that you have made it through. I must admit that I have cried when reading about your infant daughter. It's so hopeful that you found love and fulfillment again. You amaze me. Honestly you do and I know that you don't write here for that reason but you are such an inspiration. And while yes the funeral will be sad, it'll be nice to see her family again and to know that someone like her will eternally live a flawless existence. That is beautiful.
from Ali
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9:24 am - Wednesday,March 9, 2005
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Thank you for the encouragement. I know that it's all in how I'm viewing it. It won't be SO bad, right? :P
from Nikki
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6:08 pm - Tuesday,March 8, 2005
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Wow - sorry that first guestbook post was so ridiculously long. I see what you were trying to say now, and I absolutely agree. I've never really thought that counselor's had terribly much more to offer than family and good friends, other than availability.
from amy
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6:40 pm - Monday,March 7, 2005
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I think I have to disagree with you on this one, at least partially. I don't think it's a good idea to hastily assume that because children are resilient, their grief is automatically less significant. When I was ten my sister (age 8) passed away, and my parents assumed it didn't affect me at all. I was left alone to grieve and try and work it all out - a process which took a good nine years of anger and cyclical depression (which I still struggle with). Also, children may seem as if they are coping better initially, because a child grieves in stages. They deal with what they can, and then put it away for awhile. It's even suggested that a child who under goes trauma will re-grieve at every major point in their subsequent development. I feel that's been true in my case. Anyway - I see your point when it comes to the nine month old who never knew his father (though growing up fatherless, can be its own tragedy, I think - but maybe not one that requires counceling). Nevertheless, I still feel the affects of my sisters death thirteen years later, and I think had I had someone validate my grief even though I was a child, and help me work through it, I might have saved myself years of depression, and might be quite a different person than I am today. Anyway, There's my two cents! I would also agree with storyteller when she said, it depends on the child. --amy
from amy
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0:34 am - Monday,March 7, 2005
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I think you make a good point about the fact that sometimes it's the parent's grief that's the issue and not the child's. I'd signed my 3 kids up for bereavement group after Rich died. The girls benefitted from it but my son was totally indifferent & didn't see the need for it. I thought he was in denial or something. But the therapist said to me that my son has a very logical way of thinking and that he was actually coping very well -- no, he wasn't in denial and it wasn't that he didn't love his dad. Everyone's different. I really do think how a child copes is influenced by the parent. My kids are okay, still miss their dad but none need counseling.
from Storyteller
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9:13 pm - Saturday,March 5, 2005
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Happy Anniversary and thanks for the mid-day laugh at work while reading about you and your knife! Maybe I should try that to keep other drivers at bay. :) LOL!
from Kim
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1:05 pm - Monday,February 28, 2005
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Happiest of anniversary wishes to you both. :)
from Nikki
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10:51 pm - Saturday,February 26, 2005
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Happy Anniversary to you & Marathon Girl! :)
from Storyteller
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1:59 pm - Saturday,February 26, 2005
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Aw, c'mon. It's the thought that counts - and if that thought involves battling out other guys for stuffed toys, well, even better! *grin. (This, of course, is coming from the woman who received a "Aw, [heck], happy valentines, even though I don't do Valentine's day" email from her husband! Again, it's the thought that counts!)
from skibigsky
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10:37 pm - Wednesday,February 16, 2005
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